The Power to Choose

I was watching the Bio. Channel when I suddenly got the idea to write this post. The program called "Shanghai Bride" where it tells about the current trend in Shanghai girls when they are choosing a husband. It is said that girls in Shanghai are choosy and that they only marry a rich guy preferably foreign expatriates. It happens since there are more boys than girls in China due to "1 Child" Policy introduced in the 1980s. What is interesting is that the show follows ordinary Shanghai man and woman on their quest to find their "true love". One man, in particular, attracts me. His name is Mr. Wu, a divorcee who work as an electrician with the salary of RMB1,000 (RM500). He tried to get help with few matchmaking agencies but still cannot find the right girl suitable to be his wife. His problems? On top of his small salary and unattractive physics (which I think is a trivial thing) is his attitude. He is so cocky and have no effort on his own when it comes to go own a date and flirt with a girl. I just can't believe that during his first date with a girl that are being set up by the agency, he just let the girl do all the talking without having the effort to join in the conversation. He also waited for the girl to called him instead of him calling the girl. And on top of that he seems uninterested when the girl is showing every effort to get to know him. Hurmm.

I once go on a blind date with a guy whom I get to know from a friend of mine. I'm a bit skeptical about going for a blind date but I still do it out of respect to my friend (which is not a good thing). Since we never exchange any photos before hand, I went to the blind date without knowing how the date of mine will look like. When I reached to the specific place I called him and he demanded for me to guess which one is the guy that I'm supposed to date (huh?). I was quite annoyed. To my surprise, he was in front of me the whole time,laughing when he saw my clueless face. When I realised that he is the person I'm looking for, I went straight to him and introduced myself. I was quite shocked when he just ignored me and instead went to answer a call from his friend. WTH??

The date went on for 2 and half hour. The most torturous moment of my life. Why?? Coz he can't seem to stop talking about himself, even when I tried to interject his conversation. And when its the time for me to say something, he will look at some other places. Talking about being disrespectful. I still can tolerate that he doesn't have the look and the height that I preferred(hey, a girl can dream. Right???), but I am irritated when he seems to me as a narcissistic coz he can't stop talking and bragging about his career and life.

Since that painful episode, I have blacklisted blind date in my to-do list. It is scary when you go on a date without knowing his face (Kalau muka pecah rumah, I would run away there and then), to top that up with bad attitude, a blind date seems not worthy enough to waste the time of your life to an unknown stranger.

I always hated when the guy is so full of himself. So, what if you have a big car? Or a big house? Or even a big paycheck? I don't care about all of that coz I already got my own. Though I can be materialistic at times, I don't like it when they are too full of themselves. Its annoying. I also would like the guy to show efforts in getting to know me. I don't like to do all the talking.

I have come across a few guy friends that say girls nowadays are too choosy. They have this opinion of girls only prefers wealthy handsome man to be the husband. And they keep blaming the girl, when their relationship fails. And with that, they think that can get away from being lazy.

For me, if the guy really wants to know or like you, he should be willing to put all the effort which includes improving himself for the better. Hey, its not easy to take care of someone's daughter. We eat rice and wear clothes. These items requires a lot of money. We are not looking for a billionaire but a guy who is willing to work his butt off just to feed his wife and kids. Ingat jaga anak senang?? If you don't have a million, jangan gedik nak kawin. Milk formula nowadays costs a fortune. Tu belum masuk diapers and also their medical. So, think carefully if you want to be in a relationship. For all girls, always remember that you have the power to choose.

Yeah Right

I've been having a flu for a week now. Its just annoying and I have tried everything to cure it off. I've taken the meds, eat all the oranges that my mum bought last week and even went to gym every other day but none seems to work. One day, I was short messaging by friend from work and I told her that I am having the worst flu ever. This is part of my conversation with her:-

Me : Missy, I'm having a flu. Its been 3 days and I had trouble sleeping.
Ms F : U having flu quite frequently. This is the second time in a month.
Me : Yup, but its not my fault. I don't want to get this stupid flu.
Ms F : Ain, did u always skip your Subuh prayer?
Me : Erk, what does it have to do with our earlier conversation? And do I have to tell you every time I had my Subuh prayer?
Ms F : My Ustazah once told me that people who missed their Subuh prayer tend to fall sick easily.
Me : Huh?? WTH??

Please anyone, tell me if there really is such scientific cases that shows if you skipped your Subuh prayer, you will easily catch a flu? Is this for real? I never heard this before. Okay, while I am not that pious, I'll try to perform my Subuh prayer everyday. I did have few times when I'm too sleepy to get up. But hey, the question here why does make such weird statement? When the world is moving to a high-tech era, I just don't believe that some people can ever say such things.

Did they ever thought that there are various of reasons why people fall sick? Its just really ridiculous . What if I really have a weak immune system, that a small dust can make me go itchy and sneeze and have a flu to a certain extend? Do I have to blame anyone for that?? How many times should I pray to ward it off?? I don't mean to be rude and disrespectful to the Ustazah but unless her statement is backed by relevant studies made by experts, I just think that I don't need to listen to her.


P/s: With this alarm clock, it would be difficult for me to miss my Subuh. Who need thousand Ringgit Iphone when I have this diva-I-am-awesome kitten named chcheek. She will wake me up at 530 am everyday for her breakfast by sitting on my body.

Chcheek with her big bro, Baby the white gay cat

La mia vita

Used tissues all over the room
Watery red eyes
Pink-blocked nose
Bottles of pills


Nah, I am not heartbroken
I'm just having a flu
Sigh!

p/s: Government hospital sucks! Am not going to use their facility anytime soon.

Omnia Vanitas

Die young and stay pretty, eh?

The last week of 2010 was the most boring week of my life. I had to go to office to clear few works and do some spring cleaning. Yup my office cubicle is just like a rat nest. Guilty! (heee :p) So every morning, I will be the first to arrived at the office and one of the thing I would do is to read the news in the internet. One of the news that caught my eyes is the death of a French model named Isabelle Caro of anorexia. Ok, to be honest I didn't really know her or her story but I was quite intrigue by her death due to anorexia. I ended up googling her on the net to know more about her. Seeing her latest pictures on the net is enough to make me have a nightmare for a week. How can a person do such thing to her own body?

What happened to Isabelle Caro is just one of the story of how a woman will go to a great length just to be beautiful. I mean, don't get me wrong. There is nothing wrong trying to make yourself pretty and all dolled-up, but to the extent of hurting yourself? That is absurd!

Woman are being brainwashed to think that beauty is what necessary in life. They are afraid that they will be set aside by the society if they are not pretty enough by the society standard. Hence, they would do anything just to be beautiful. If they have dark skin, they would apply the whitening cream to their face and vice versa. What if you have flabby hands and cellulite all over your legs? Ahhh...don't fret my dear, there are always the mighty slimming pills or cream or you can diet. What? Too lazy?? Worry no more, we have plastic surgeon at your service.

The cosmetic industry have made billion of dollar a year to market beauty products to woman. It is difficult to hear cosmetic company goes bankrupt cause there will always be a demand from the consumer. It just show how important being beauty for a woman. Pretty woman are often being used by the advertising companies to sell a product even how useless the product is.

Since I was a teenager until I became an adult, I was often told that skinny woman is a pretty woman. I didn't know where does people get this idea. I have lots of girlfriend trying hard to be skinny as a pole just to be called pretty while I'm on the other hand, hogging all the food. (yeayyy!) I didn't care to diet and I didn't care about being pretty. I just like to enjoy my food, until now. I live to eat. People always told me to watch what I eat coz 1 drumstick that I ate would add pound to my thigh. Hurmm, but do I really care? Nah.. the more you tell me not to, the more I will do it. The idea of dieting never click in my brain. Luckily, I am always active. For me dieting is for the self-absorb. People go on diet for the wrong reason. They did not go on diet for the purpose of getting healthy, they just want to conform to the standard size of clothing. The lesser the number the normal you will be.

I'm not against any beauty products coz I still use some of it. But moderation is the key word. Being beautiful is not about harming your body. If you want to shed some pound, then head to the gym. There's always wonders to be found and hey, if you are lucky, cute guys with biceps awaits..hehehe...

Extreme dieting or extreme use of beauty products will lead to nowhere. At the end of the day, the inner beauty that counts coz physical beauty will fade overtime.